We are created for relationships. One of the
keys to effective discipleship is to be able to relate with others in peace,
unity and harmony in pursuit of common goals. Rom. 12:16.
Interpersonal relationship is an association
between two or more people established in the context of social, cultural, and faith
– based influences; and are usually regulated by mutual agreement.
In relationships, we tend to influence each
other, share thoughts, and engage in activities together. This interdependence generates
impact on the lives of people.
Interpersonal relationships are dynamic in
nature and they tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each
other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people
drift apart, or move on with their lives and form new relationships with
others.
Healthy relationships are characterized by
intimacy, growth, and resilience. This usually follows recognized developmental
stages as reflected here after.
Developmental Stages of Relationships
Studies have revealed five (5) stages of
development in most relationships. The sustainability of any phase is dependent
on the commitment of the parties; and their willingness to make things work.
Acquaintance:- Is
usually initiated by a variety of factors which may include but not limited to
physical proximity; first impression, and previous relationships. Continued
interaction may lead to the next stage, but acquaintance can continue
indefinitely.
Build up:- The
backbone for build up is trust and care. These two filtering agents fan
intimacy, and it’s further enhanced when common goals and aspirations hold
promises of fulfilment.
Continuation:- This stage is fortified by a
mutual commitment to a long term friendship and identification, which usually
manifest in a desire to be together more frequently.
Deterioration:- Not all
relationships deteriorate, but those that do, tend to show early signs of loss
of trust, less communications, and even resentment. This is further noticeable
by a gradual drifting apart of the parties.
Termination:- The
final stage marks the end of the relationship. This can be avoided, and should
be, where practicable. Next : Keys to improving interpersonal relationship skills
