Youth Alive Digest Goshen

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NIGERIAN YOUTHS WAKE UP!!!

Awolowo was (37), Akintola (36), Ahmadu Bello (36) Balewa (34) and Okotie-Eboh (27), Enahoro (27) led the struggle for independence after the death of Macaulay. Only Zik was 42 at the time. In 1966, the first coup was led by: Kaduna Nzeogwu (29) and countered by Murtala Mohammed (28), Theophilus Danjuma (28), Babangida (25), Nanven Garba (23), Sani Abacha (23), Shehu Musa Yaradua (23), and brought into power Gowon (32), Ojukwu (33), Obasanjo (29), Buhari (24).

Most of the military administrators who governed the states under the successive military regimes, most of whom are governors now, were under 30 years. The brief democratic dispensation which interjected the military interregnums also saw the House of Representatives in particular populated by majority of members under 30 years as well as some senators. Under 30s were also not in short supply with appointments, we have examples of MT Mbu who became foreign affairs minister at 23 and Pat Utomi who became a presidential adviser at 27 and so on and so forth.

NOW: Why is it that this age bracket is today still sleeping in 3 seater chairs in their parents’ homes? Why is it that this age bracket is today still collecting pocket money from their parents? Why is it that this age bracket is today still writing JAMB? Why is it that this age bracket is today still sagging their trousers? Why is it that this age bracket is today still searching for jobs, not yet married? Why is it that this age bracket is today no longer qualified to even be leaders of youth wings of political parties? Why is it that this age bracket is today so docile? Why is it that this age bracket is today still incapable of feeding itself? Why is it that this age bracket is today barred by law from even aspiring to certain political offices? Why is it that this age bracket is today incapacitated, unwilling, unable and incapable of asking questions?

It is time to make a difference. Let’s get serious, get focus and get discipline!

Write up by Adeyemi Adeniyi

Shabach Night 2014

There will be free transportation to and from Goshen.

Designated Bus Stops: Asokoro(AYA Junction), Nyanya, and Keffi.

Departure Time: 7:00PM on Friday Night (17th October).

Join us as we raise His Banner with our Praise!!!

Awakening God's endtime business giants

Life is loaded with times and seasons. Each times and seasons is loaded with opportunities.

How sensitive you are to this opportunities determine what you make out of life. Ecc. 3:1

Maximizing opportunities is the only way to maximize destiny.

Any potentials not stirred will go stale, and any opportunity not maximize enslaves destiny.

Lk. 19:42-44.

Therefore, take advantage of the business seminar coming up on Saturday 13^th September, 2014.

THEME: AWAKENING GOD’S ENDTIME BUSINESS GIANTS – ZECHARIAH 1:17

Features of the program includes:

INTERACTIVE WORKSHOP                                                  

1: BUSINESS TRAINING                                                            2: SKILL ACQUISITION

a.       Fundamentals of Entrepreneurship                                a.             Small Scale Farming

b.       Effective Business Marketing                                            b.            Pastry Making

c.       Empowerment Session                                                        c.             Internet Opportunities

d.              Photography/Graphics

Venue: Youth Chapel, LFC Goshen

Time: 12pm

Join spread the news as it promises to be explosive!

Youth Rally

Don't be left out. It is happening this Saturday. Join us at Ado/Youth Chapel respectively.

Team 1:
Meeting Point: NNPC mega station Ado (for those staying around Garki, Asokoro, Nyanyan, Mararaba etc)
Team 2:
Meeting Point: Youth Chapel Goshen ( for those staying around Masaka, Auta, Uke, etc)

Join us on this rescue mission

Exceeding Grace!

KEYS TO IMPROVING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP SKILLS

Interpersonal relationship skills like any other skill, can be learnt,  acquired, and developed. Let’s consider the following together:

 Be genuinely interested in people:

People are touched when they sense you are genuinely interested in them, and theirs. It is the foundation for a sustainable interpersonal relationship. Put their interests in focus, and be willing to give attention to their intentions. You’ll make more friends by being interested in others than you ever will by trying to get people to be interested in you. Ask people questions. Talk to others about things they’re interested in. Put the focus on them. You’ll quickly gain their friendship. If someone is important to you in any way, tell them so! This goes for any type of interpersonal relationship including your spouse, kids, employees, co-workers, your friends, family — anyone!

Be a good listener

Learn to be a great listener by being slow to speak. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19). Someone said that listening is 90% of communication. Of course hearing is not the same as listening. Active listening means we take an active role in communicating. Hearing on the other hand is a function of our physiology. Active listening requires the listener to care about what the other person is saying...that is a requirement for good relationships.On the other hand, avoid dominating a conversation, or overwhelming your listener with too many words. Ecclesiastes 6:11 says; The more the words, the less the meaning, and how does that profit anyone? 

 Avoid Criticism, Condemnation Or Complaining About People.

There’s no faster way to create resentment toward you than to criticize or complain about a person. Instead of telling people they’re doing something wrong, consider asking them questions to try to find out why they do what they do. Offer them an alternative in a way that comes across as trying to help. Show them how doing things the way you would like them done can benefit them or lead to reward.

Appreciate And Commend People

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone (Colossians 4:6). Build others up with your words, don't tear anyone down. If you’re normal, you’re probably very quick to notice things you don’t like about people. Maybe you sometimes even let people know when you don’t like something. If you start appreciating the good things others are doing, they are much more likely to give you more good things to appreciate. Just make sure your appreciation is genuine. You might have heard this saying when you were growing up: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Wise advice!

 Seek To Add Value To People

Always look out for what you can do for others to make them better. Become an improvement agent!

Counsel Constructively

Look for areas to help people do better, and become better. Express this through words and examples.

Admits When You Are Wrong

You can really harm your interpersonal relations if you refuse to admit when you’re wrong. It’s frustrating for others and it damages their trust in you. If you’re wrong, or you made a mistake, admit it. This will quickly clear the air and allow everyone to move on. If you approach someone in anger, their defenses immediately go up and your discussion will go nowhere. If you have a problem with someone that needs to be sorted out, approach that person calmly. Ask them if you can sit down with them to work on an amicable solution for both of you. Everyone thinks more clearly when they’re calm.

Next: AVENUES FOR RELATIONSHIP SUSTAINABILITY

Interpersonal Relationships

We are created for relationships. One of the keys to effective discipleship is to be able to relate with others in peace, unity and harmony in pursuit of common goals. Rom. 12:16.

Interpersonal relationship is an association between two or more people established in the context of social, cultural, and faith – based influences; and are usually regulated by mutual agreement.

In relationships, we tend to influence each other, share thoughts, and engage in activities together. This interdependence generates impact on the lives of people.

Interpersonal relationships are dynamic in nature and they tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart, or move on with their lives and form new relationships with others.

Healthy relationships are characterized by intimacy, growth, and resilience. This usually follows recognized developmental stages as reflected here after.

Developmental Stages of Relationships

Studies have revealed five (5) stages of development in most relationships. The sustainability of any phase is dependent on the commitment of the parties; and their willingness to make things work.

Acquaintance:- Is usually initiated by a variety of factors which may include but not limited to physical proximity; first impression, and previous relationships. Continued interaction may lead to the next stage, but acquaintance can continue indefinitely.

Build up:- The backbone for build up is trust and care. These two filtering agents fan intimacy, and it’s further enhanced when common goals and aspirations hold promises of fulfilment.

Continuation:-  This stage is fortified by a mutual commitment to a long term friendship and identification, which usually manifest in a desire to be together more frequently.

 Deterioration:- Not all relationships deteriorate, but those that do, tend to show early signs of loss of trust, less communications, and even resentment. This is further noticeable by a gradual drifting apart of the parties.

Termination:- The final stage marks the end of the relationship. This can be avoided, and should be, where practicable. Next : Keys to improving interpersonal relationship skills